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Grief and Loss
Younger Kids

Talking to children about cancer

It is important to give your child the coping resources they need to get through this devastating time in their lives. Having an open, honest, and supportive conversation about cancer can help your child understand what is happening to their loved one.

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Resources to Help You Support Your Child

Mesothelioma Hope

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Grief and Loss
Coping Skills

Help your child process different types of grief

Dougy Center’s unique approach of using peer support groups offers an opportunity for you to express your emotions — all of them — and helps you find your own path in grief.

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The Right Place When Nothing Feels Right

Dougy Center

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Suicidal Ideation
Caregiver Mental Health
Tweens
Teens

Call or text the 988 Lifeline

The 988 Lifeline offers 24/7 call, text and chat access to trained crisis counselors who can help people experiencing suicidal thoughts or feelings. People can also dial 988 if they are worried about a loved one who may need support.

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988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline

Substance Abuse and Mental Health Service Administration

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Substance Use
Younger Kids

Prepare Your Young Children for a Healthy Drug-Free Future

Read this booklet to get information and tips on how to safeguard your child from alcohol or other drug use in the future. It includes suggestions for modeling healthy behavior, building strong relationships and parent-child communication, and monitoring children's activities.

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MA Bureau of Substance Use Services

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Peer Relationships
Teens
Tweens
School Transitions

Help your kid deal with peer pressure

Many parents worry about the negative impacts of peer pressure. Use these tips to help you guide your kids through it.

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Kids Helpline

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Peer Relationships
Teens
Tweens
School Transitions

Help your kid navigate friendships

As your child moves into their teenage years, you might see a shift from them relying on you or another trusted adult, to looking for support from their peers. This can be a big milestone as they start making more independent decisions. Get some tips for helping them pick a positive peer group.

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700 Children's® – A Blog by Pediatric Experts

Nationwide Children's Hospital

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School Transitions
Anxiety
Younger Kids
Tweens
Hispanic/Latino

Manage your child's back-to-school anxiety

Help your child handle fears and gain independence as they go back to the classroom. Pointers for addressing anxiety about being separated from their families after months of togetherness.

In English and Spanish.

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Back-to-School Anxiety During COVID

Child Mind Institute

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Teens
Coping Skills
Stress
Trauma
Depression
Caregiver Mental Health

Build resilience to survive tough times

Whether you’re facing a global or personal crisis—or a mix of both—building resilience can help you cope with stress, overcome adversity, and enjoy the better days to come.

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Substance Use
Caregiver Mental Health
Pregnancy & Postpartum

Balance being a parent and being in recovery

Listen to six mothers share their stories about their substance use recovery and parenting journey. Learn how they overcame challenges and what supports their success.

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The Journey Recovery Project

MA Department of Public Health

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Babies Toddlers and Preschoolers
Younger Kids
Tweens
Coping Skills
Opening Up

Help your child deal with strong feelings

Sometimes our feelings are bigger than our words. Here are some tips to help your child learn to identify, talk about, and deal with their feelings.

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Handhold Blog

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Babies Toddlers and Preschoolers
School Transitions

Ask these questions to select child care that considers mental health

When looking for an early education and care setting, you can ask about emotional safety along with all the other important selection criteria. Scroll down to the Caregiver-Child Interaction Questions to help you find out how your child will be nurtured by child care staff. Other questions focus on types of settings and how they handle children's emotions, discipline, and parent communication.

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Child Care Aware of America

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Babies Toddlers and Preschoolers
School Transitions
Anxiety
Coping Skills

Calm anxiety before kindergarten starts

Starting kindergarten may be a big transition! Use these 10 tips to help minimize your child's anxiety, address their fears, and build their confidence as they start kindergarten.

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Start Early

Champions for Early Learning

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Babies Toddlers and Preschoolers
Sleep
Calming Down
Early Development
Caregiver Mental Health

Develop healthy sleep habits for you and your baby

Who needs sleep? Everyone! Sleep supports mental health. This guide describes ways for you and your baby to develop healthy sleep habits, bedtime routines, and strong relationships. Different things work for different families. Find what works best for yours.

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Fatherly

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Babies Toddlers and Preschoolers
Sleep
Calming Down
Coping Skills
Anxiety
Younger Kids

Help calm bedtime fears

Young children often develop fears about bedtime and sleep. It's typical! But it can be frustrating for caregivers. This tip sheet offers suggestions, including scripts, about working with your child to address bedtime fears.

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Mind in the Making

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Babies Toddlers and Preschoolers
Younger Kids
Divorce
Co-parenting

Support your child's mental wellness during separation and divorce

Divorce affects children even if they’re too young to talk about it. Help your child cope with the changes that separation or divorce brings. Check out these tips on what to say, what young children need, what to expect, and how to handle shared custody.

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Zero to Three

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Babies Toddlers and Preschoolers
Caregiver Mental Health
Pregnancy & Postpartum

Care for your mental health before and after you give birth

Before and after you have a baby can bring a mix of emotions. Use these questions to know the signs of anxiety and depression and when you should take action to get help.

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National Institute of Health

Maternal Mental Health

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Babies Toddlers and Preschoolers
Stress
Tantrums
Caregiver Mental Health

Low on patience? Try these mantras.

Young children who have a hard time staying calm or calming down need adults to show them how. Sometimes repeating a brief message (mantra) to yourself can help. Try these out.

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Generation Mindful

Ashley Patek

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Divorce
Trauma
Grief and Loss
Babies Toddlers and Preschoolers
Younger Kids

A story about the impact of separation and reunion

When Little Rabbit and Big Rabbit reunite, they share their feelings about being separated. A great story for children and caregivers who have been away from one another due to foster care, addiction, illness, and other struggles. Watch now.

Written and read by Chandra Ghosh Ippen. Illustrated by Erich Ippen, Jr.

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You Weren't With Me

Written and read by Chandra Ghosh Ippen. Illustrated by Erich Ippen, Jr.

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Babies Toddlers and Preschoolers
Coping Skills
Calming Down
Stress

Help your child learn self-control from Cookie Monster

Let Sesame Street’s Cookie Monster explain what it means to wait and have self control. This is a fun way to reinforce a message young children need to hear many times a day.

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Sesame Street

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Babies Toddlers and Preschoolers
De-Escalating a Crisis
Siblings

Learn what you can do when your child hits another child

Young children often use hitting to communicate. For children with emotional health needs, this can be hard to manage. Check out this list of 31 ideas, suggestions and questions to consider when your child hits another child.

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Visible Child

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Coping Skills
Opening Up
Calming Down
Babies Toddlers and Preschoolers

Use this Feelings Chart to help your child show how they feel

When young children have trouble expressing their feelings, a picture might be better than a word. Ask your child to point to the face showing how they feel. In English and Spanish.

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Center for Social and Emotional Foundations for Early Learning

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Babies Toddlers and Preschoolers
Coping Skills
Stress

Learn how to maximize love and manage stress

Showing love and responding to your child helps them learn to manage their feelings and behavior. Caring for yourself helps you care for your child. Learn practical ways to help your child thrive.

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The Boston Basics Campaign

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Tweens
Teens
Opening Up
De-Escalating a Crisis
Substance Use

The School of Hard Talks Online

We know that parenting a teen or young adult can be hard. Sometimes, it seems like everything you say is wrong. These seven short lessons illustrate strategies you can use in any situation to have calmer, more productive interactions. It’s a great resource for parents who want to support their almost-grown-up kids in making healthy decisions.

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School of Hard Talks Online: Lessons learned from motivational interviewing

Massachusetts Department of Mental Health

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Calming Down
Stress
Coping Skills
Younger Kids
Autism / Neurodivergent
Tweens

Create a custom "calm down" plan for your child

Use these simple worksheets with your child to explore what might help them feel better when they are upset.

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Create a body aware care plan

Massachusetts Department of Mental Health

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Substance Use
Teens
Tweens

Create a family contract

Creating a family contract is one way to help your kids abstain from using alcohol, tobacco and other drugs.

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SACK Coalition

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Social Media and the Internet
Teens
Tweens
Opening Up
Unhealthy Relationships

Talk to teens about dealing with online predators

For many parents, the scariest thing about our kids’ digital lives are on-line predators. Here are some tips for talking with your teen about on-line safety.

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Common Sense Media

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Teens
Eating Disorders

Eating disorder on-line screening tool

This short screening — appropriate for ages 13 and up — can help determine if it's time to seek professional help.

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National Eating Disorders Association (NEDA)

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Teens
Anxiety
Calming Down
Stress
Coping Skills
Tweens

Use this app to face and overcome fears and anxiety

Calm Fear was developed by a clinical psychologist to teach teens (ages 12+) how to face and overcome their fears. It is available free from Google Play and Apple.

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Stem4: Supporting Teenage Mental Health

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Suicidal Ideation
Teens
Hispanic/Latino
Tweens

Be the one to use these steps to help save a life

5 action steps for talking with someone who might be suicidal. Supported by evidence from the field of suicide prevention. In English and Spanish.

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National Suicide Prevention Lifeline

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Suicidal Ideation
Teens
LGBTQ+
Tweens

Call the TrevorLifeline at 1-866-488-7386

Trained counselors are here to support you 24/7. If you are a young person in crisis, feeling suicidal, or in need of a safe and judgment-free place to talk.

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The Trevor Project

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Teens
Psychosis

Understanding and managing psychosis

Families can play a powerful role in supporting recovery, reducing stress, and helping to prevent the onset of worsening symptoms. These 7 handouts give families insights and practical steps.

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CEDAR Clinic

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Tweens
Teens
LGBTQ+

PFLAG: find a chapter near you

PFLAG is the first and largest organization for lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, and queer (LGBTQ+) people, their parents and families, and allies. There are 4 support groups in Massachusetts. Find one here.

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PFLAG

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Trauma
Coping Skills
Younger Kids
Teens
Tweens
Babies Toddlers and Preschoolers

Helping children cope with traumatic events

Children and teens are more vulnerable to being traumatized by accidents, pandemics, violent crime, or other disasters. But with the right parental support, they’re also able to recover faster.

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Racism
Black
AAPI
Younger Kids
Trauma
Babies Toddlers and Preschoolers
BIPOC
Hispanic/Latino

Talk with young children about racial injustice

Practical tips and resources for talking with young children about racial injustice with love and reassurance.

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Mass Association for Infant Mental Health

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Black
AAPI
Racism
Teens
Tweens
Trauma
BIPOC
Hispanic/Latino
Caregiver Mental Health

Learn how to cope with the impact of racism on mental health

Experiencing racial discrimination and injustice can take a heavy emotional toll and trigger chronic stress, anxiety, depression, and racial trauma. But there are ways to strengthen resilience.

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HelpGuide.org

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Racism
Black
Teens
Tweens
Younger Kids
BIPOC
Caregiver Mental Health
LGBTQ+

Support Black LGBTQ mental health

Witnessing unjust violence against Black Americans can create significant stress for Black LGBTQ youth. This wise guidance provides ways to support youth who are at risk of mental health disparities.

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The Trevor Project

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Racism
Black
Teens
BIPOC
Caregiver Mental Health

Watch or listen to Couched in Color: a BIPOC mental health podcast

Couched in Color is a weekly podcast designed to encourage dialogue on the mental health needs of youth and young adults of color. Teens and professional experts serve as regular guests.

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Couched in Color

Dr. Alfiee M. Breland-Noble, licensed psychologist, consultant, author

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Coping Skills
Tweens
Younger Kids
Teens
Caregiver Mental Health

Try a mental fitness challenge to help your family stay mentally fit

Keeping our brain in shape is just as important as keeping our body in shape. The On Our Sleeves team has 22 suggestions for you and your family to help you stay mentally fit through routines, healthy eating, and exercise.

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On Our Sleeves

The Movement for Children's Mental Health

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Teens
School Transitions

Start the conversation about college and your student’s mental health

Developed in partnership by NAMI: National Alliance on Mental Illness and The Jed Foundation, this guide provides students and families with important information about mental health during the college years and proactive steps that can help you support your student if needed.

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Set to Go

A JED Program

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Younger Kids
Tweens
Teens
Caregiver Mental Health
Special Needs
Opening Up
Siblings

Join a national program dedicated to supporting siblings

The Sibling Support Project is the first national program dedicated to the life-long and ever-changing concerns of millions of brothers and sisters of people with special health, developmental, and mental health concerns. It contains information and resources that brothers and sisters of all ages need to support their families and themselves.

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Sibling Support Project

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Babies Toddlers and Preschoolers
Younger Kids
Teens
Tweens
Divorce
Caregiver Mental Health
Co-parenting

Read co-parenting and joint custody tips for divorced parents

Co-parenting after a separation or divorce is rarely easy. These shared custody tips can help give your children the stability, security, and close relationships with both parents that they need.

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HelpGuide.org

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Babies Toddlers and Preschoolers
Younger Kids
Teens
Tweens
Adoption

Support for adoptive families

Adoption Journeys offers information and referral, regionally-based response teams, support groups, respite services and family liaisons.

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Adoption Journeys

Child & Family Services

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Anxiety
Calming Down
Caregiver Mental Health

Gain control over anxiety

This free app, uses tools from Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), a scientifically proven treatment for anxiety. With features like the “chill zone” it may help parents who are looking for an effective way to control their thoughts, emotions, and behaviors.

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Mindshift ™ CBT

Anxiety Canada

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Younger Kids
Teens
Grief and Loss
Tweens

How to talk with kids about death and grief

This guide can help give parents and other caregivers the words to talk with their child(ren) about death and grief.

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Supporting children through grief

The Good Grief Program at Boston Medical Center

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Adoption
Babies Toddlers and Preschoolers
Younger Kids
Tweens
Teens

Finding an adoption competent therapist

Short article that describes approaches to therapy, finding the right therapist, and national resource organizations.

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Finding & working with adoption competent therapists

Children's Bureau

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Babies Toddlers and Preschoolers
Younger Kids
Teens
Tweens

Read about new behavioral health benefits for youth in Mass

On July 1, 2019, many Massachusetts private health insurance plans began paying for certain Behavioral Health services for Children and Adolescents (BHCA). Find out more about these services and learn if this benefit is available to your child and family.

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Handhold Blog

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Babies Toddlers and Preschoolers
Younger Kids
Tweens
Teens

Talk with other parents who have been there

PPAL is a statewide family organization dedicated to improving the mental health and well being of children, youth and families through education, advocacy, outreach, and partnership.

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Parent Professional Advocacy League (PPAL)

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Stress
Covid-19
Babies Toddlers and Preschoolers
Younger Kids
Teens
Tweens

Signs your child might be stressed

View this quick guide to understanding stress reactions in children during COVID-19.

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We all need help sometimes

Massachusetts Office of the Child Advocate

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ADHD
Younger Kids
Tweens

Understand more about ADHD

This short video explains what ADHD is, what it looks like in children, common treatments, and ways parents and other adults can help the child in their life.

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ADHD in children: What a family needs to know

PsychHub ™

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Babies Toddlers and Preschoolers
Younger Kids
Teens
Tweens
Autism / Neurodivergent

Learn how to navigate the insurance system

Get assistance with navigating insurance for families of youth with autism or other mental health challenges.

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Insurance Resource Center for Autism and Behavioral Health

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Trauma
Coping Skills
Caregiver Mental Health
Opening Up

Build skills and foster your own resilience

Evidence-based parent development programs to build your confidence as a parent, and help facilitate better relationships with your children. Especially for those who have experienced prior trauma.

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Parenting Journey

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Covid-19
Stress
Anxiety
Depression
Coping Skills
Grief and Loss
Babies Toddlers and Preschoolers
Younger Kids
Teens
Tweens

Guide for helping your family cope during the pandemic

This useful fact sheet helps parents and caregivers think about how life during COVID-19 might be affecting your family—physically, emotionally, and financially—and what you can do to help your family cope.

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Dealing with separation and grief during COVID-19

National Child Traumatic Stress Network

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Tweens
Teens
Opening Up

End the power struggles in your home

This book offers practical advice and strategies for helping parents give their child more control and choice so they can become confident and capable adults - the ultimate goal of all parents. Learn more from this NPR interview.

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(Book) The Self-Driven Child by William Stixrud PhD & Ned Johnson

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Black
Calming Down
Caregiver Mental Health
Coping Skills

Help children navigate their emotions

Dr. Joy Harden Bradford and Dr. Ann-Louise Lockhart talk about how we can work to better regulate our own emotions so that we can help our kids regulate theirs.

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Session 120: Helping Children Regulate Their Emotions

Therapy for Black Girls

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Anxiety
Younger Kids
Tweens

Watch a show for kids on social anxiety

A new Netflix original series, "The Healing Powers of Dude," follows an 11-year-old boy with social anxiety who relies on an emotional support dog to get him through middle school. Watch one of the actors talk about the series.

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The Healing Powers of Dude

Netflix

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Coping Skills
Stress
Younger Kids
Tweens
Teens

Get tips on how to manage challenging behavior

In this episode of the Shrinking it Down Podcast, Dr. Stuart Ablon, Director of Think:Kids at Massachusetts General Hospital, talks through strategies to help you and your kids do the best you can right now.

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Shrinking it Down Podcast: Mental health made simple

Clay Center for Young Healthy Minds at MGH

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Teens
Tweens
Opening Up
Younger Kids

Conversation starters about mental health

Getting kids talking isn’t always easy. Try these conversation starters on topics like feelings, dreams, and likes / dislikes.

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Conversation Starters

On Our Sleeves ™

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Anxiety
Calming Down
Stress
Younger Kids
Tweens

DIY calming glitter jars

How to make a glitter jar for stress relief.

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DIY Calming Glitter Jars & Glitter Slime

YouTube

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Black
Babies Toddlers and Preschoolers
Younger Kids
Teens
Tweens
BIPOC
Co-parenting

Fathering from the outside

How to be an engaged father from outside the household, featuring the founder of Fathers Uplift.

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AFAR Podcast

Fathers Uplift

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ADHD
Anxiety
Depression
Eating Disorders
Suicidal Ideation
Sleep
Bipolar Disorder
Self Harm
Psychosis

Get in-home help for kids with serious challenges

Intensive Care Coordination and In-Home Therapy are services available to youth under 21 with MassHealth. Watch these short videos to learn if these services might be a good match for your child and family.

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Learn More About CBHI Services

Executive Office of Health and Human Services

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Younger Kids
Teens
Tweens
Depression

Learn about depression in kids

This is a quick way to understand what depression looks like in kids, and some of the best ways to treat it. It’s an excellent place to start and can help you separate facts from fears.

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Facts for families: Depression in children and teens

American Academy of Child & Adolescent Psychiatry

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Anxiety
Calming Down
Coping Skills
Younger Kids
Tweens

How to help your child face their fears

In this short radio interview, learn how to help your child deal with their anxiety.

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For Kids With Anxiety, Parents Learn To Let Them Face Their Fears

National Public Radio

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ADHD
Anxiety
Sleep
Calming Down
Younger Kids
Teens
Tweens

Try weighted blankets for better sleep

Weighted blankets can help calm and soothe a kid who is feeling overwhelmed and upset. They can also help kids who might have trouble sleeping.

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Everything you need to know about weighted blankets

Today's Parent

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Sleep
Babies Toddlers and Preschoolers
Younger Kids
Teens
Tweens

Help your kid get enough sleep

More sleep might make a big difference for your child. Learn why and how you can help your child get enough sleep every night.

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The Importance of Sleep

Clay Center for Young Healthy Minds at MGH

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Younger Kids
Tweens
Teens
ADHD
Anxiety
Depression
Bipolar Disorder
Suicidal Ideation
Psychosis

Explore how to apply for DMH services

Most mental health services, including medication and therapy are provided through health insurance. The DMH provides additional services for youth and adults with the most serious mental health needs.

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Massachusetts Department of Mental Health

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Babies Toddlers and Preschoolers
Younger Kids
Teens
Tweens
Special Needs

Get support advocating for your child with special needs

Information, a peer support network, and assistance for parents of children with special needs, their professional partners, and their communities. Great tips on navigating the special education system available here.

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Federation for Children with Special Needs

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Opening Up
Younger Kids

Read a book to get kids talking about mental health

This animated film and graphic novel for elementary and middle school-aged children, shows how an honest conversation about “different kinds of hurting” between two classmates can have a life long effect.

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Different Kinds of Hurt: Isaac's Story

Massachusetts Department of Mental Health

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Coping Skills
Babies Toddlers and Preschoolers
Younger Kids
Opening Up

Guide your child through identifying their feelings

This free app helps children identify their emotions. It is a quick way to get them talking about the wide range of feelings we all experience.

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Emotionary

Funny Feelings®